Life is short. Have an affair.
So says the slogan Ashley Madison, the infamous social media for adultery, which has 1.8 million unique users.
It started in Canada in 2001 and now has finally come to Japan.
It works by users purchasing credits, which they can use to send mails to potential partners, so in some ways on the surface is not dissimilar to regular dating sites. But this is totally up-front that the people using the site are cheating on their real partners.
Women can join for free (yay!) and there is a translation tool if you’re interested in looking for a foreign “friend”.
Japanese men in particular really like adultery and their wives are, arguably, more accepting and willing to forgive than perhaps western counterparts.
We might go so far as to say that adultery is more common in Japan — but from visits to fuzoku brothels to relieve the stress of a sex-less marriage (perhaps as many as 50% of marriages!), and also genuine affairs, such as with hostesses or younger women from the office.
Remember, Japan is the place where Fujitsu developed an “infidelity phone” — a handset which can hide missed calls and text messages from numbers designated as “private”. All in the name of security, the makers insist, but it is the ideal phone for discreet adulterers.
Though it already exists in 27 countries, Japan is the first Asian venture for AM, so it’s a bit of an experiment. We’re not sure if this kind of streamlined, slick SNS is what men or women want here when they are going to have an affair, but the first four days netted Ashley Madison 75,000 local members (joining 19 million around the world — anonymous, natch) and 230,000 visits.
People frequently use so-called “encounter” (deai-kei) sites here, but their reputation has increasingly suffered in recent years due to high-profile cases of fraud and arrests. Ashley Madison might be slick but at least it won’t rip you off.
AM has targeted 100,000 members in the first month, and 1.2 million in the first year.
“This might be bigger here than in America,” says Noel Biderman, the CEO of the company behind Ashley Madison. “We totally underestimated the desire here.”
This lovely lady has 22 boyfriends. And before you start jumping to conclusions and calling her a slut, she regards them all as serious ones!
When Hatsuho Tani (22) was asked recently by a Japanese tabloid if she felt bad for being so active in romance, she replied that she loves each guy in a different way.
She must also possess a superhuman memory too since she claims to remember all their various conversations!
Hatsuho is a “burikko”-type tarento and model — in other words, she pretends to be dumb.
This is apparently very charming to Japanese men, who like a girl who looks up to them and they can be macho with.
And what about marriage?
“No, I’m not thinking about it.” What a girl!
A Japanese weekly tabloid, Shukan Bungei, has published a story saying that comedian Shingo Fujimori saying that he got a fashion model pregnant and then forced her to have an abortion, then paying her 3.5 million yen (over $40,000) to keep her quiet.
The tabloid claimed that his agency leaked the story to try to overshadow the “scandal” over Fujimori’s relationship with TBS announcer Minami Tanaka, though surely it just makes his reputation look even worse.
At a recent press conference for an ad campaign he was fronting, Fujimori apologized for the trouble he had caused everyone and acknowledged that the story was partly true.
However he said that he intended to “deal with” the girl properly and so could not say more. However, his relationship with Tanaka was continuing, he said.
Isn’t it about time that these lovely announcers stopped fooling around with cheating celebrities and got themselves decent boyfriends?!
Following the revelation that singer and actor ISSA had been having an affair with AKB48′s Yuka Masuda, his finance, actress and model Sachiko “Judy” Fukumoto (30) has announced via Twitter.
This is what ISSA will no longer be getting up close and personal with.
Fukumoto was born in America and brought up in Okinawa, hence her slightly non-Japanese (but very lovely) style.
The affair, which cost Yuka Masuda her job in AKB48, presumably can continue now and ISSA can console himself with Yuka’s younger delights.
Hashimoto (below, left) has since admitted his guilt in the latest scandal in his career, which has seen him attack tattooed city workers, teachers, puppet theatre and anyone he didn’t agree with in his notorious unapologetically brusque style.
“Well, first I’ve got to explain to my wife. There’s a massive ‘penalty’ waiting for me at home,” he joked at a press conference.
As we’ve seen before, adultery is no biggie in Japan, especially if you are man. The tabloids take some delight in the juicy details but there is basically no moral sermonizing.
Hashimoto, for example, has lots of children and famously has said how much he loves his wife and family. But rather the pleasure is in recounting how Hashimoto got to know the lady in question at a high-class Osaka hostess club. On their fourth date they went to a love hotel and apparently even tried out kinky cosplay.
Hashimoto always has a reputation for being a bit naughty and doing things differently, so we doubt this latest scandal will impact on his career much.
A recent survey of 200 women aged between 20 and 39 who are having affairs yielded some interesting results.
76 women said they started their affair following work drinks or eating out with their colleagues, while only 44 revealed it was the more conventional course of becoming closer by working together. 16 said it was from consulting about their job — i.e. asking the man what they should do about a problem, like a father figure.
Over half of the respondents said their partner worked on the same floor as them or was even closer in the office, thus probably leading to some awkward team meetings no doubt.
In true Japanese style this “office ladies” are very capable of pigeon-holing “romance” and “marriage”. Over half answered that, even given the chance, they would NOT want to marry their partner!
Do they feel guilty or stressed by having an affair with a married colleague?
No: “Adultery is a culture,” one of them answered!
Mieko Tanaka, the sexy young politician in the ruling DNP party, has been caught with her lover visiting a hotel.
Not such a big deal — after all, even politicians have needs — except that her man, a senior civil servant, is married, according to the Shukan Shinshio, published on June 14th. Adultery in Japan is often forgivable if you are a man — but the women are not so lucky, and can end up tainted with the brush of promiscuity or the temptress.
After a roadside kiss near Osaki Station in Tokyo, the pair headed for some no doubt more advanced stages of foreplay in a hotel. Tanaka (36) and the man (55) have been rumored to be an item for some time, despite the fact that he has a wife and university age daughter back in Nagoya.
Tanaka is no stranger to risque headlines, having previously worked as an actress.
When she became a politician as one of the “Ozawa girls” (younger female politicians groomed by the shadowy Ichiro Ozawa, and we know now how he likes to do his grooming), her little-known acting career was immediately checked with a fine tooth comb by the tabloids and, surprise, surprise, some nude scenes were found from a low budget horror film!
She has also been caught speeding and it has even been alleged that she was a “cosplay sex club writer”, though we’re not sure what exactly that entails.
One of the most successful Japanese models, Ai Tominaga, has been betrayed by her boyfriend, the actor Shun Shioya. He gave a tearful confirmation to tabloid rumors that he had an affair, with chef Makie Sonoyama.
It was only just revealed that the celebrities were a pair when it was reported that he was two-timing her with Sonoyama. Apparently sleeping with the biggest international Japanese fashion model just wasn’t enough for our chum Shun. Cue tears and the customary apologies before the cameras. He also said that Ai had thumped him when he told her!
For me, Ai Tominaga is one of those stunning females who have that “model” look but don’t do much for me. But when I find out that she likes to whallop unfaithful boyfriends — well, then she gets a helluva lot more sexy!
Ichiro Ozawa, the man once certain to be Prime Minister before scandal forced him to resign, has been found innocent on fraud charges. No one seems convinced by the verdict, including us, which is why we couldn’t resist posting this story currently running wild in the tabloids.
According to Shukan Bungei, Ozawa apparently had an affair with a television reporter he met in 1989 at a party. In summer 1990 she then gave birth to his love child!
The tabloid uses as its source an acquaintance of the mother, whom she supposedly confessed to about the paternity of her son.
We cannot verify the accuracy of this story at all (= don’t sue us!) but we like the idea of the scoop, at any rate.
Politicians are famous for spawning kids through adultery and Japanese ones are no exception. The public tends to be more forgiving here, though if, as in one famous case, you don’t pay your mistress her dues — hush money, free apartment — then you cannot expect kind treatment from votes or the press!
Adultery is often far more tolerated among couples in Japan than in other countries. Especially older women accept that their husbands will shop around occasionally.
When the shoe is on the other foot, though, things work out differently…
A Kanagawa public official, Gen Noda (47), recently suspected his wife was having an affair. No man to take this lying down, he began following his wife.
Soon enough he rumbled her entering a “hotel” with another man, a company employee. Despite the flagrant adulterer’s younger age, the cuckold wouldn’t stand for this effrontery — and promptly thumped the man.
Sadly, what would be a great tale of samurai spirit ended when the “victim” went to the police, leading to the Noda’s arrest. Fear not, his career may now be in ruins but the Japanese Internet has apparently rallied to his support, commending his chivalric actions.
So there you go… Who says romance is dead in Japan? It’s alive and kicking.
When it comes to adultery in Japan, as the movie “Shall We Dance?” depicted, woman, on the other hand, often hire private detectives to follow their naughty husbands around. One popular agency are the all-woman “hit squad” style investigators, who advertise themselves almost like secret police task forces! Hell, apparently they even have helicopters to help them track down errant husbands!
Following the March 11th earthquake, some quasi-psychologists came out and said that it had increased the tendency for women to have affairs — living for the moment in an uncertain world — but there are of course no facts to support this.
There does seem to be some double standards here. Take the case of Mona Yamamoto, a rather talentless TV personality, whose fame mostly rests on her habit of having affairs with married men. It takes two to tango and she certainly doesn’t strike me as a femme fatale by any standards. However, the blame is always on the hapless Mona for these shenanigans.
Below is a snap of Mona on a date with a politician, Goshi Hosono, who, being married, got away scot-free while she lost her job… She later cultivated this image as a “brainy” girl unable to resist the men and could continue her TV career. However, more scandals followed and, since finally marrying someone, Mona is no longer in the public eye at all…
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